I have an ex from hell. Okay, I may be exaggerating just a wee bit there. What do you call a man who betrayed you in the worst way possible not once, but thrice? Anyway. I’m thankful there is only one of him.

I’ve been advised said Ex-from-Hell (EfH) is moving in with his newest gal pal, who he just recently met while his last girlfriend was still pregnant with his kid. (Like I said, he’s a real winner. What was I thinking?!) Unfortunately, EfH’s gal also has a child of her own.

I realize there are many problems with this scenario already. Why do I know this? Why do I care? But let’s ignore that for the time being. Here’s my dilemma: EfH is still trolling the dating sites, specifically freebie OkCupid.com. Frequently. With a profile that says he’s childless, single, recently out of a long-term relationship so he’s “not looking”, but eventually would like “…a woman I not only want, but need”. Funny, he used that line on me once.

EfH may say that he’s only on the site for the tests. Which would be believable, since OkCupid focuses specifically on user-generated tests to determine compatibility. Problem is, EfH’s number of questions answered and compatibility markers haven’t changed. For well over a year, maybe longer.

Now normally, I wouldn’t care. Normally I’d feel a twinge of sadness that he still hadn’t grown up and was putting more innocent people through a hell of their own. And then I’d stop the thought process and move on, knowing (from experience) that the only way EfH could attract anyone new was if the person in question had very little self-esteem or self-respect. No one is going to take care of us if we can’t first take care of ourselves.

But I digress. Do I keep my mouth shut? Would you? Advice people, advice! There are kidlets involved here.

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