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Dateless

I haven't posted in, well, a long time. Because I'm dateless. Been on a bit of a dry spell of late, as loathe as I am to admit it. Its not even that I've given up. Really, I haven't. I've even asked two different men out. One met me, thought we even hit it off. But I hear from him maybe once a month if I'm lucky, and he's made no move whatsoever to invest time or energy into our interactions. The second - The Mechanic - I've been trying to arrange a date with for months now, but our schedules just don't seem to mesh.

To me, those are signs. Cliches even. (He's Just Not That Into You?) If a man can't make time, for a first date or a third, then I'm not sure why I want to either.

I'm still a bit bummed by it all though. I get a bit misty over the holidays sometimes. I love giving gifts, finding that perfect present that makes my loved ones' eyes light up with joy. And I do this for my friends and family... but its just not the same when you're dating someone. Shows like Ugly Betty don't help either. I find myself longing for one character in particular (Gio) to make a real-life appearance in my life.

I even threw this little itty bitty character crush off a friend earlier today to see if I was out to lunch. "Is my want for someone to sweep me off my feet with everyday romance a bit fucked up?" I boldly queried. "Nah," he told me. "There are men like that everywhere."

I'm still thinking about this one and until I figure it out, I have a feeling I'll be dateless.