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28Jun/081

Updates on My Dates

Lots to share in a short time frame. Let's see how much I can cover!

The Farmer decided that he had to tell me he was going on a non-date with a woman he'd made out with before last Saturday night. The non-date (his words) were to occur at a pool with her in her bikini, which he assured me was a very good thing. Before I could ask why this was important information for him to share, he was gone. The next day, he tells me he was too sick from some sort of food poisoning to "do her again" in the morning, aka morning sex. He still was adamant it wasn't a date. Suddenly, he seemed to realize how inappropriate his rantings were, and mentioned he was doing a pretty good job of putting his foot in his mouth. I haven't bothered talking to him since.

A series of strange events with Better than Sex Guy has had me calling him at his request, and him not picking up or returning my calls, although when I ran into him on the street the other day (completely unawares it was him at first - he looks quite a bit older than his pics in person), he made me promise to call him again. So, I did, one last time, to invite him to the farmer's market. He ignored me, I went anyway, and lo and behold who do I run into as I'm leaving? Him, his son, and a very attractive young redhead, who waved and said hello to me while I tried to get Better than Sex Guy's attention. Somehow he never saw me, so I chatted briefly with the woman at his side. When I got home, I had an email from him stating his son's mom was in town, so this weekend was bad for him - but what's going on on Canada Day? Yeah, no.

Behinder and I have chatted a bit since the big fallout the other day, but nothing has been resolved. We even ran into each other on the street the next day; for some reason I'd chosen to get all dolled up before leaving the house, so as soon as he spotted me, he plastered a shit-eating grin all over his face. Still, I have to wonder about a man who extolls my virtues and amazingness, knows I've wanted him by my side for almost two years, yet pulls a little emo side story as an excuse why he can't date me anymore, and finds the fastest, quickest gal to casually start dating. *sigh*

So that's the sad state of my dating life right now: no dates with which to speak of. Just weird coincidences and behavior from a bunch of motley fools.

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19Jun/080

So… He Didn’t Stand Me Up

Better Than Sex Guy just couldn't find me. After an hour of driving around, he gave up.

Silly me, I should have remembered he was new to town.

So, pre-date#1 is postponed.. until Sunday afternoon or Monday.

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18Jun/080

Pre-Dates at the Park

Nope, I still haven't had my pseudo-date with Better than Sex Guy. I got caught up with work and family shiznits, and completely forgot to call. I'd planned on calling him today after a long walk downtown, but as I was walking by the water park (a couple of minutes from my place) I spotted him and his son. On a date. With what seemed to be a childless woman - or at least one that didn't seem to mind that her back was to the playground.

I looked away, trying to give him a bit of privacy, but I'm pretty sure he spotted me. aie. How awkward.

And, in a way, creepy. Am I going to have to avoid walking by all parks in my city (of which there are many!) just so as not to seem like a stalker? bleh.

I'll call him later anyway, but at least now I know his lines are being practiced on more than just me.

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17Jun/080

Pre-Date #1

Oh my goodness, I may just be going on a date tomorrow. #1 of the year, and the first in... gosh. Eight months? Ew.

My last date was with the Behinder, and its negligible if we are still dating/dating again. Is sex the only way to tell you're dating someone? If so, then ok, we're not dating.

Anyway...

Better than Sex Guy has settled into his new place, and says he's starting to make a life of his own. 40 years old, retired military, with a 2-year-old son. Yup, he's living the life! (and seems very grateful for his good fortune) His last five-word email asked me when we'd be meeting up at the park so the kidlets could play. Oddly (strangely? fatefully?) he lives around the corner from my place. So it looks like tomorrow we may just be finally meeting up, after a month or two of long distance chat. Is it a date? Not sure, but I'll say it is just to stroke my ego a bit.

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17Jun/080

Time To Start Dating Again

I think I've been in hiding long enough. So far no dates, but I am chatting with a couple of gents.

  • Better Than Sex Guy: He's finally moved to town and his Internet connection is hooked up. Still, his emails are brief - his last one three words long, extolling the virtues of having a park across the street from his house.
  • Favorite Date Guy, aka the Behinder: Ok, so I doubt we'll date again, but dammit, I want to. Add to his confusing as hell chat the other night, and I've confirmed my torch-holding days aren't over yet. *sigh*
  • The Farmer: This guy is a New Kid on the Block; I've just started chatting with him. I think he may be more of a fisherman than a farmer, but all he's shared so far is that he just finished a BSc, and he's currently working on his parents farm. He lives (by his estimation) about 1.5hrs North of me, so I doubt I'll be meeting him anytime soon. He's got me a bit worried, too, since he's said several times he's very picky about the women he dates. I have a feeling I've already been picked out of his dating patch. Still, he instigates conversation several times a day, and seems intelligent, sexy, witty and a bit dark. Just how I like 'em.
  • Homesteader: Also a newbie, this gent just messaged me today. He lives remotely, homesteading and raising cattle, and rarely gets Internet access. His photos and personality are exceptionally intriguing to me - but he lives more than four hours away. His profile also says he's got kids who live with their Mom but "that shouldn't matter because I'm not looking for my soulmate or anything". Uh, yeah. At least he's honest, but based on that comment alone I doubt we'll connect. I'll still keep the communications open, for now.

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22May/080

Meeting Someone from a Dating Site

Remember Better Than Sex Guy? Well, our several weeks-long chatting frenzy has come to an end. He currently lives elsewhere, but has retired early and is moving here at the end of the month. So no 'net for him until the 2nd.

He seems like a genuinely nice guy to me. Having said that, I've got red warning bells flashing in my head. Ok, maybe more like yellow ones, and not because I'm meeting him from a dating site. More just.. well.. I can't quite put my finger on it.

Maybe its because he doesn't email more than two sentences at a time. Ever. Or perhaps its that in each of his photos, he looks like a completely different person. I am tempted to ask which photo he looks the most like TODAY, but I haven't wanted to waste his two sentence response. Yet.

And then there's his kid. Which wouldn't be an issue - if the kid were his. Strange, I know. He says he met the child's mother when she was 2 months pregnant, and when they split up almost two years later, she didn't want the little guy. So he took custody.

Admirable, for sure. And I definitely gave him kudos for such a selfless act. But why can't I shake the feeling that there is more to this story? I mean, isn't there always some sort of baby mama drama in these kinds of situations?

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