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What’s Better Than Sex?

I've been chatting with a gent on OkCupid for a week or two. Initially he added me to his friends' list, but didn't say a word. Always the curious one, I checked him out and discovered he was a single dad of one, and was moving to my town at the end of the month. So, I said hi.

Most of the conversations we've had are short and sweet. He's an obvious fan of netspeak (which irks me), and hasn't managed to write more than two lines in reply no matter what the topic of conversation. I get he's a single dad and probably doesn't have a lot of time on his hands to chat though, so I've given him the benefit of the doubt. For now.

All of our "conversations" have happened on OkCupid so far. In one email, he told me that raising his son and watching him grow into a toddler was - literally - better than sex. HUH?!

I wasn't sure how to reply to that one. I mean, I love kids. Really. I adore them. But, I also love sex. Quite a lot. But I've never thought of comparing the two before. Uh... yeah, no.

I basically said just that, after pondering my response for a couple of days. His reply? He hasn't "gotten any" since he had his son, so he was trying to convince himself that caring for a child could replace (or at least make you forget about) physical intimacy with an adult you're romantically involved with.

Hm. I dunno about this guy.

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