Its Odd How Things Change So Quickly
As I read my last post from just over a year ago, I'm amazed at how much changed - and how quickly. A week after I wrote that last post, I met the man that I'm still dating today. Have things been smooth sailing? Gosh no. But it was definitely worth the ride to get where we are now. His name in this blog? The Dude. Why? Because that's what my friends call him.
After a year and a bit, we aren't anywhere near where many couples run to after only three months of dating. You know what I mean; the folks that are ooey gooey with one another, telling each other, "I love you!" ad nauseum and moving in after barely finding out each other's last names. No, we're pretty low key. The L word hasn't been spoken, there's no moving in talk, and we don't even refer to one another as boyfriend and girlfriend. Partners, yes.
So what happened to all the other folks already mentioned? A brief recap:
- Never heard from The Mechanic again after our first and only date;
- I moved away so that Behinder no longer lived behind me, and he moved the gf he left me for into his home. We talk maybe twice a year, when he contacts me to see how I'm doing;
- The Farmer and I never met, although we still chat occasionally;
- Goblin and I continued to hang out/chat platonically until recently. When he decided to meet a single mom who lived out of town by planning to stay at her home for their first weekend visit, I became quite upset and he didn't understand why.
- Better Than Sex Guy? I'm at a loss as to figure out who that was. I will soon and repost. EDIT: Alrighty, I went back and looked. The dude who stood me up and blew me off?! Why on earth he got so much air time in this blog is beyond me now. I'd completely forgotten about him.
Dateless
I haven't posted in, well, a long time. Because I'm dateless. Been on a bit of a dry spell of late, as loathe as I am to admit it. Its not even that I've given up. Really, I haven't. I've even asked two different men out. One met me, thought we even hit it off. But I hear from him maybe once a month if I'm lucky, and he's made no move whatsoever to invest time or energy into our interactions. The second - The Mechanic - I've been trying to arrange a date with for months now, but our schedules just don't seem to mesh.
To me, those are signs. Cliches even. (He's Just Not That Into You?) If a man can't make time, for a first date or a third, then I'm not sure why I want to either.
I'm still a bit bummed by it all though. I get a bit misty over the holidays sometimes. I love giving gifts, finding that perfect present that makes my loved ones' eyes light up with joy. And I do this for my friends and family... but its just not the same when you're dating someone. Shows like Ugly Betty don't help either. I find myself longing for one character in particular (Gio) to make a real-life appearance in my life.
I even threw this little itty bitty character crush off a friend earlier today to see if I was out to lunch. "Is my want for someone to sweep me off my feet with everyday romance a bit fucked up?" I boldly queried. "Nah," he told me. "There are men like that everywhere."
I'm still thinking about this one and until I figure it out, I have a feeling I'll be dateless.